First of all, we have to first get rid of the guilt thing. You know, the whole “money doesn’t buy happiness” and the guilt that you are supposed to feel because you have the nerve to be happy.
You can’t be happy with missed meal cramps
Let me address the money thing first.
I will say it again and again. Money can’t buy happiness for sure, but you CANNOT be happy with missed meal cramps. Face it, you need money to make sure that you have the things you need in life, so get over the guilt of wanting to have enough money.
On the same token, just because you are wealthy, doesn’t make you happy. If you don’t believe me, read the tabloids about all of the rich trust-fund babies and their drug habits and nonsense.
So, we’ll deal with the money thing later. I want to talk about happiness in general and the fact that we are SUPPOSED to be happy. Most of the time. YUP.
This is a law of the universe, the law of entitlement. Humans are designed and therefore entitled to be happy.
Unhappy is an unnatural state that our bodies use to force us to CHANGE. When we are unhappy, our blood pressure increases, our heart rate increases, we release stomach acid, we sweat. These are all physiological changes that are not good for us long-term. They are supposed to be signals for us to change things so that we can go back to normalcy.
Mental Junk Food
Now, some of you actually are HAPPY being UNHAPPY. Having confusion and chaos in your life actually makes you happy. If that is you, I can’t help you and I’m not going to try. You don’t need me anyway, you are already happy in your misery. I’m here to show unhappy people who WANT to be happy, how to be happy.
Unhappy is mental junk food.
Let’s look at a healthy baby. They don’t take Prozac or Valium. They don’t care if their hair is in style or if their teeth are straight, or even if you like them. As long as they are rested, fed and dry, they are happy just being themselves. They don’t stress the dumb stuff, they just go through life being themselves and leave the stress up to their parents.
Temporary is better than nothing
If you think about it, we are all subconsciously aware that this is how we are SUPPOSED to live. We are so aware of this that we will do just about ANYTHING to get that feeling of BLISS back, even if it is temporary or self-destructive. Some of us are lucky enough to find it through edifying means like music, art, or dance; but too many of us develop destructive habits like smoking, drinking, drug abuse, promiscuity, condescension, overeating, and “retail therapy” just to get a temporary BLISS.
I know, babies don’t have the pressures of life to deal with. They cry and someone takes care of them. If you had it that way, you would be happy, too. Right?
Worry gets you nowhere
Wrong. Remember that many trust-fund babies are painfully unhappy. It’s not a matter of what you have, really, it isn’t. It’s a matter of HOW YOU THINK.
Think about the last time worrying solved anything. Nothing gets solved until you DO something. When a problem surfaces, do you worry about it or do you ACT? That’s the difference between happiness and misery. ACTION.
Shape your world
Those of us that take control of our world, those who ACT are happy most of the time. We still experience set-backs and disappointment, but we believe that we are supposed to be happy; therefore we ACT to make it happen. Not temporarily, but as a natural state.
In order to be truly happy, think like a baby.