Joy learned a new equation today:


We are free beings who want to be in control. Have to takes control away from us. It takes away our free will;  therefore we fight against have to by using procrastination.

If you have to do the dishes, you will procrastinate. You will fold the laundry, watch TV, until there is nothing left to do but the dishes. It got so late that you don’t feel like drying them, so you leave them in the drain. Now your glasses have spots on them.

Procrastination leads to sloppy work because you limit your time to get the job done.

So, let’s try a better way.

You don’t have to do anything, except die. Everything else is a choice. But choices have consequences.

Let’s see. Rather than have to with the dishes, how about telling yourself what you want to do. I want clean dishes, I want a nice home, I want something to eat off of,  I DON’T want bugs and mice, therefore I want to do the dishes.

No procrastination because doing the dishes is now a choice. They will get done; you will have more energy and a clean house.

You can even go a step further by affirming how having clean dishes will make you feel. I will feel  more organized if my dishes are clean. I will feel happier because I won’t have to worry about mice. Use this if you really hate doing the dishes. Most of you can save this step for more unpleasant chores like that parent-teacher conference you are dreading.

This simple technique will make you more productive, just replace have to with want to. If you have trouble, make a mental list of the reasons that you want to, then affirm how you will feel after it is done.

I have another formula for Joy

                WANT TO > HAVE TO.

Try it and share your results with me. Tell me the new ways you found to make your have tos want tos. I’d love to blog about them in the future.


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3 responses »

  1. Taquila says:

    I’m going to try that with my kitchen table, I can’t seem to keep it free of paper so like you said, I want a clean table, so I’m going to use your approach to this situation and stop putting it off.
    Thanks again for another great post

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