Henry Ford once said, “if you believe you can or you believe you can’t, you are right.”
You can accomplish just about anything if you BELIEVE you can, but without high self-esteem, you will accomplish little. This is why it is so important to your overall success.
Many people make the mistake of setting goals and then moving toward them, only to give up before they are reached. This is because they don’t understand the path to success.
Self esteem must be raised before any accomplishment can take place. Accomplishment is a function of belief, not ability. In order to reach any goal, you must first believe that you can. People with low self-esteem do not believe and therefore cannot achieve.
The path to success runs one way and it runs in this order every time. It is a universal law.
- Self-talk – how you talk to yourself when no one is around. Self-talk turns into
- Self-image (esteem) – how you really feel about yourself, not what you tell people you feel. Your self-image turns into
- Beliefs – what you feel you are capable of. Beliefs are based on self-image. Read the Henry Ford quote again to understand the importance of beliefs. Your beliefs turn into
- Attitude – the direction in which you lean. Read my post about attitude for more information. Your attitude turns into
- Action – this is the actual movement that gets things done. You move in the direction of your attitude. Movement toward your goals ends in
- Success – once you begin to move toward your goals, you end in success.
Here are 5 easy ways to raise your self-esteem
- Stop negative self-talk immediately – when you catch yourself in negative self-talk, STOP. Refocus your thoughts to a positive affirmation of a goal. I actually have a mental list of goals that I can draw on to instantly stop negative self-talk.
- Daily positive affirmations – when you take something out of your life, you must replace it with something better or the old thing will return in greater force. When you stop the negative self-talk, you must replace it with something. Positive affirmations are the answer. Your negative self-talk was frequent, your positive affirmations must be at least as frequent.
- Wallow in your every accomplishment – no matter how small. We live in a society that loves to tear you down. You must counteract this with mental atta boys. Roll around in the slightest victory like a pig in mud. Did you get to work on time – way to go. Did you make your bed this morning? Super. This adds points to your self-worth scoreboard.
- Remove negativity – negative people actually start the cycle of negative self-talk. They reinforce your insecurities and prey on you. I can’t say this enough – get them out of your life. Stay away from them, don’t talk to them, don’t listen to them. Use No I’m Not to shut them down.
- Surround yourself with positive people – again when you take the negative people out of your life, you must replace them with something better or you will go back to where you came from. Positive people will attract positive people and positive things into your life. By being around positive people, you will begin to shift your own attitude in a positive direction and you move in the direction that you lean toward.
Start working on your self-esteem NOW. The faster you start, the faster the results, the faster you get to bliss. Get started by visiting with Taquila Coleman, a very positive friend to have.
Don’t forget the 101 Ways to Praise Challenge We’re trying to collect 101 unique ways to praise your children by Friday. If you reply to this post with at least one unique way to praise along with your Twitter ID and a positive link, I will give you a shout out on Twitter.