You are the master of your thoughts; control them before they control you.
Beliefs are acquired; you are not born with them. Beliefs come from the outside. They can be changed, they can be controlled. We are not stuck with our upbringing.
Remember, not all beliefs are bad; in fact, most beliefs are good for you. For instance, religious beliefs help give you a moral compass in which to base your life.
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We treat beliefs as if they are reality – we never question long-held beliefs. If we hold a belief long enough, it becomes an unquestioned command to our nervous systems. Paralyzing beliefs are holding back our success.
In order to begin living a more successful life, you must first evaluate your beliefs and decide whether each is enabling or paralyzing. Your goal is to increase the intensity of your enabling beliefs while eliminating those beliefs that paralyze you.
You must find a replacement belief for any belief you eliminate. Holes in your belief system will always be filled. Control what you fill them with.
First, look at the emotional intensity of each belief. Emotionally intensify your enabling beliefs and decrease the emotional intensity of your paralyzing beliefs.
According to Anthony Robbins, your belief system has three levels of intensity:
- An opinion is a recent addition to your belief system. It is not very strong and can be easily changed if evidence to the contrary supports the new position. Questioning an opinion and finding additional evidence will easily change it.
- A basic belief is usually acquired in childhood and is rarely questioned. It can be changed but requires heavy evidence to the contrary in order to change it. Beliefs are emotional and rarely questioned.
- A conviction is the most difficult belief to change. To you, it is the absolute truth that you will sacrifice anything to uphold. Questioning a conviction would never cross your mind. Any evidence to the contrary is immediately shut out. Convictions are always accompanied by extreme emotion.
Question all paralyzing beliefs, no matter how strong they may be.
Look at the evidence that supports your belief. Evidence need not be logical or true in order to support a belief. Is the evidence that supports your belief true? Is it logical? Where did this evidence come from? What makes this person an authority?
Evaluate the evidence from an emotional standpoint. How much emotional pain is this belief causing you? How much pain are you causing others with this belief? What emotions are triggered by questioning this belief? How can you turn down the intensity?
DECIDE to replace your paralyzing beliefs with new, enabling ones. Make a list and find evidence to support your new beliefs. Affirm this out loud as frequently as possible. Attach EXTREME emotional pleasure to your new beliefs.
You cannot hold onto two opposite beliefs at the same time. You cannot believe that you are both a winner and a loser, you must choose which to believe. When you lock on to a positive belief, you automatically lock out the negative one. You focus on the positive and your actions will follow.
Start NOW. The sooner you change your paralyzing beliefs, the sooner your life will turn around.