Guard the doors of your mind and protect it with a vengeance as if your life depended on it.
We act in accordance with our views of who we are – accurate or not. Most of us rely on the opinions of others to tell us who we are.
We blindly trust what others say about us, as if they were the experts on us.
If you think about it, this attitude is just plain silly.
What if we were selling our brand new car and asked our neighbor what he thought it was worth? What if he said $10? Would you accept his opinion of your car’s value? Of course not. Yet you blindly accept his opinion of how much YOU are worth, no matter how ridiculous or inaccurate it may be.
You have more value than your new car, don’t allow ANYONE to devalue you.
Why do we do this?
We have been conditioned to think negatively about ourselves. Our society tells us that self praise stinks. We subconsciously collect evidence that supports our paralyzing beliefs in order to keep ourselves humble.
Paralysis by analysis
We wait for the approval of others before doing something.
We have been conditioned to go along with the crowd; that somehow being accepted is better than being yourself, therefore what the crowd says becomes more important to us than the truth about ourselves.
We fear criticism because we place too much emphasis on being accepted, therefore we change in order to fit in, rather than question negative images of ourselves. We do what is EXPECTED of us rather than what we WANT to do.
Self-esteem is tied to our ability to feel in control of our lives. We must NEVER give this control to others. Do not allow others to dictate how you live your life.
What can we do to change this?
Each time we accept someone’s negative opinion of ourselves, we lower our self-esteem.
Be careful what you listen to. This is why it is so important to surround yourself with positive people. Positive people are attracted to other positive people, so you must be positive in order to accomplish this.
Ask the logical question – how can someone else know more about us than we know about ourselves?
Refuse to accept someone else’s disempowering suppositions about you. Another person’s opinion does not become your belief until you agree with it. Stop agreeing with other’s opinion of you if it doesn’t fit what you want to be.
Take control of your thoughts
You are the master of your life. No one can change your beliefs about yourself without your permission. Deny permission to the unworthy.
- Stop listening to people who want you to under live your life.
- Become skeptical about the TRUTH other people tell you about yourself.
- Dispute all negative images of you.
- Have faith in your own judgment. Do you.