The difference between a stepping stone and a stumbling block is how it’s used.

Be careful what you listen to, we tend to repeat the words that we hear most often. We also attract people by our words – positive people with positive words, negative people with negative words.

I cannot overemphasize the importance of surrounding yourself with positive people.

Success is a process that takes work and practice. Begin now to eliminate the stumbling block words from your vocabulary and build stepping-stones to your success.

Eliminate the stumbling blocks

I can’t

  • Can’t is a four-letter word that stops you cold in your tracks.
  • Every time you  use this word, put a quarter in the cuss jar.
  • Once you tell yourself that you can’t do something, your subconscious obeys you and makes it impossible to do.
  • Once you decide that you can’t do something, you will stop seeking opportunities to grow and learn in this area.
  • Can’t puts an impenetrable wall between you and success.

It won’t work

  • Another quarter in the cuss jar when you use this phrase.
  • It won’t work changes your attitude from seeking success to focusing on failure.
  • You will begin to list the reasons why it won’t work and find no reasons why it can work.

I should

  • This is only part of this sentence. The other part of the sentence is – but I won’t.
  • This phrase also deserves a quarter in the cuss jar.
  • You recognize the problem but you have no intention of changing.

I quit, I stop, no more

  • We use this phrase to stop bad habits and behaviors.
  • The problem with using this sentiment is that you leave a hole. You have nothing to replace the old behavior with.
  • If you want to correct a bad habit, you must replace it with something better or you will soon return to the old behavior.
  • All behavioral holes will be filled.

I have to

  • This is negative goal-setting.
  • Your subconscious mind has dignity and does not like to be forced to do things. It will fight back.

Do this, or else

  • This is another example of negative-goal setting.
  • You are creating a subconscious ultimatum and your subconscious will fight back.

It was nothing

  • You subconsciously minimize accomplishments AND maximize failures.
  • If you accomplish something, wallow in it.
  • Turn up the emotional intensity of your successes.

I’m afraid

  • Fear is a natural reaction to the unknown.
  • To progress in life, we must move out of our comfort zone.
  • Focus on happily arriving at your destination.
  • The fear will dissipate after you take the first few steps toward your goal.

There’s always tomorrow

  • Our friend procrastination.
  • Your subconscious will always fight to keep you in your comfort zone.
  • Procrastination is a trick it uses.
  • Fight back by doing something NOW.


  • When you have a goal, HOW will become apparent, although not immediately.
  • Never ask how you will do it, just move toward your goal, the path will become clear as you begin your journey.

Why me?

  • This stumbling block leads to victimization and depression.
  • Everyone has challenges in life and your challenge is not unique.
  • Why me is an indication of self-absorption.
  • You will never be successful if you believe that you are somehow the center of the universe.
  • Challenges are the free weights of life; they build the muscles of our character.
  • Instead of asking why me, ask what can I learn from this and how can I help others?

Keep the stepping-stones

The next time I will…

  • Use this phrase when you make a mistake.
  • Give yourself a new behavior to replace the old one with.

I want to

  • Makes tasks desirable to the subconscious rather than forcing yourself to do something.

Wow, I did a great job on that

  • Recognizing your accomplishments will build self-esteem.
  • Self-esteem is the beginning of success.

I can

  • Changes your focus to the positive.

It’s my idea

  • You will not move enthusiastically toward any goal that is not your idea.
  • You cannot thrive if you live someone else’s dream for your life.

Start NOW

  • Removes procrastination.

I can hardly wait

  • Gives you emotional excitement to work on your goals.

How can I use this setback

  • Puts control back in your hands.
  • Empowers rather than victimizes.

Your old way of speaking was a habit. To change your habit, you must practice your new way of speaking every day.

Don’t forget to visit Taquila today for more positive insight.


About living4bliss

Mental Health Food is the place to stop to get your bliss on everyday. I give tips, hints and sometimes a little silliness to help you navigate the challenges of life. We have a great community of positive bloggers that keep the bliss going all day every day. Make sure to visit their blogs, too. Mental Health Food is a product of Believing Life Is Setup for Success, Inc. (B.L.I.S.S.) in Thornton, CO. We have been in the business of teaching success since 1991. We provide workshops, consulting services and now videos that help people just like you start and maintain successful businesses and personal lives using what you already have. Enjoy a daily dose of Mental Health Food; nourishment for the mind.

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