RIP Robert Hegyes. You will be missed.

Gabe: Did I ever tell you about Robert Hegyes?

Julie: No, but you will.

Bliss: He died on my birthday. : (

TV’s Welcome Back Kotter often opened with a story about one of Mr. Kotter’s relatives. One if it’s stars, Robert Hegyes died last week.

He was one of my favorite characters on the sitcom Welcome Back Kotter.

For those of you who may not be familiar with the show, it’s central character, Gabe Kotter (played by Gabriel Kaplan) was a high school teacher who returned to his alma mater to teach a group of ne’er do well students known as the sweathogs, among them a Puerto Rican Jew named Juan Epstein (played by the late Robert Hegyes.)

We are all sweathogs

Nowadays we mainstream our sweathogs. We no longer hide them in the high school basement in rooms with names like the room of opportunity, the blue room, or the special room. We allow them to eat beside us in the cafeteria and participate in our gym classes.

We have learned that we are all sweathogs.

We have all felt isolated, belittled, and different at some time in our lives. Some of us were physically segregated, others emotionally, but we all have sat in Mr. Kotter’s room at some time in our lives. That is why the show was so wildly popular with teens.

We all have at least one Mr. Woodman (John Sylvester White) who believes only in our inabilities and our shortcomings. We must never accept Mr. Woodman’s assessment of us, it is poison.

We have all felt like Arnold Horshak (Ron Palilo), awkward and out of place. Not really fitting into the sweathog role, but not belonging with the mainstream.

We have all hidden our hurts like Freddy (Boom Boom) Washington (Lawrence Hilton-Jacobs). We mask our insecurities with false confidence and a deep “hi there.”

We are all Vinnie Barbarino (John Travolta) at some point in our lives, allowing life to just happen around us – “what, where?”

Most of all, we have been Juan Epstein, having more excuses than dedication to our goals. When we tire of the hard work needed to reach our goals, we conveniently produce a note “from Epstein’s mother” explaining why we cannot be held accountable.

Mr. Kotter to the rescue

The thread that held the sweathogs together was that no one believed in them except Gabe Kotter.

Mr. Kotter was once a sweathog, too. He became their mentor, their role model, their coach.

For every Mr. Woodman in our lives, a Mr. Kotter will emerge. There will always be someone who believes in you, even if you do not believe in yourself. There will always be a person who has walked along the same path that you are walking and can has reached their destination.

That person will always be glad to give you a hand up.

I was a sweathog

Although I started college at age 16, my education became a casualty of my parent’s divorce. At age 17, I had no means of continuing my education, nowhere to go, no money and no hope for my future. I was lost in the room of opportunity.

I struggled with minimum wage, part-time jobs, unable to see any way out and then my Mr. Kotter came in the form of a technical school.

I graduated with honors with a degree in computer programming and was able to do amazing things with that simple piece of paper. I started my own business and became a lead instructor of technology at a community college.

I didn’t earn my Bachelor’s degree until 2009. Only I had no idea what to do with it – until.

There it was, a mere 2 miles from my house, my alma mater. They were looking for people to teach business to a new crop of sweathogs.

My classroom is filled with Horshaks, Barbarinos, Washington’s and the occasional note from Epstein’s mother. More importantly it is filled with hope.

Although I give my students business skills so that they can support themselves and their families, they give me so much more than just a paycheck.

They give me the ability to pay it forward.

Thank you sweathogs.

Signed Epstein’s mother.

Related posts

If you know of a positive blog that I can feature here, let me know on Facebook.

About these ads

About living4bliss

Mental Health Food is the place to stop to get your bliss on everyday. I give tips, hints and sometimes a little silliness to help you navigate the challenges of life. We have a great community of positive bloggers that keep the bliss going all day every day. Make sure to visit their blogs, too. Mental Health Food is a product of Believing Life Is Setup for Success, Inc. (B.L.I.S.S.) in Thornton, CO. We have been in the business of teaching success since 1991. We provide workshops, consulting services and now videos that help people just like you start and maintain successful businesses and personal lives using what you already have. Enjoy a daily dose of Mental Health Food; nourishment for the mind.

3 responses »

  1. That was beautiful, Saundra!! Your students are blessed to have you as their teacher!! I hope some of them know it. (“Welcome Back, Kotter” was one of my favorite shows!)

    • living4bliss says:

      Alas. When I told them that Juan Espstien died, being young they had a typical Vinnie Barbarino response – what? where?

      I explained that like Mr. Kotter, I believe in them and I am tyring to get them to believe in themselves.

  2. ElizOF says:

    RIP Robert. Since I didn’t grow up in The USA, I watched reruns of the show and loved it…

I'd love to know what you think. Please share a comment with us.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s