I work with lots of people who feel that they are bad and therefore do not deserve to have good things.

I also work with people who feel that in spite of being good, bad things still happen, so what’s the use?

If universal laws work, why do good people suffer?

The answer is found in the competitive plane. The competitive plane creates an environment where slavery, starvation, wars, and holocausts are allowed to exist because mankind believes that resources are scarce and you must take from others in order to have enough for yourself.

People on the competitive plane victimize others.

Live your life on the creative plane.

Once you get your own life on track, people who need your help will be drawn to you.

Be careful to show them how to get their own lives on track, but don’t enable them by doing things for them. Teach them how to fish. Of course, help them with their immediate needs first. No one whose stomach is growling wants to hear about universal laws.

Feed them, then show them how to feed themselves.

When we look at our own personal situation, we must look at things from a higher step. We must look at our own situations as they occur in the creative plane, because that is where we choose to operate.

In the creative plane:

  • People just are
  • Things just are
  • You have control

People are neither good nor bad

In the creative plane, people are neither good nor bad, only the choices that they make are good or bad.

What do you mean that people are neither good nor bad?

What about Hitler, wasn’t he bad? Wasn’t Mother Teresa good?

Neither person was bad or good; their choices and their actions were either constructive or destructive. Hitler chose to destroy while Mother Teresa chose to build. Each person had free will to choose.

Either could have chosen a different set of actions at any time.

It is important that you understand that YOU, likewise, are neither good nor bad. You make choices to either build or destroy. Your decisions are either good or bad, not you as a person.

If you have decided in the past to be destructive, you can chose to make your next actions constructive. You can change at any time. You are not hard-wired to poor decisions or destructive behavior. You are empowered to do good.

Once you begin to look at yourself as one who is capable of making good decisions and acting to build, then you can unleash the power of universal laws in your own life.

Things happen

So, that still leaves the question of why bad things happen to good people.

Well, we already discussed the fact that there are no good people, therefore the question is – why do bad things happen?

Again, this is a competitive plane viewpoint. Events are neither good nor bad; they are simply part of the life cycle. They only become good or bad when you attach a meaning to them.

That’s not to say that the death of a loved one should be looked at in the same way as breaking a fingernail. Your loved one had much more meaning to you than your fingernail and therefore you will perceive it as a much more devastating event in your own life.

But – - to a person that did not know either you or your loved one, that same event has little or no meaning. If they were to break a fingernail on the same day as your loved one died, they would be more upset about the fingernail because it impacted them directly.

In other words, things just happen to everyone.

Limiting bad things

Recognize that the same events happen as part of life every day. It is the impact that you assign to them that creates a good or bad value.

Reserve the “bad” assessment for events that truly do have a negative impact on your life. Breaking a fingernail does not deserve much attention while it is perfectly fine to assign “bad” to the loss of a loved one.

We often create bad days by placing too much emotional emphasis on trivial things. We assign the “bad” label far too freely while being stingy with the “good” label.

Events for the most part are a result of how you choose to look at things.

From April 1993 to April 1994, I lost 4 family members. To most, that would have been a “bad” year until you consider the fact that there were 361 days that year when no family member died. It really wasn’t a bad year at all, there were just days when bad things occurred.

I don’t mean to trivialize the grieving process or the impact that the loss of a loved one, a job, a home will have on your life. These events are life-changing and take time to adjust to, but you must put a time-limit on your grief so that it does not become the definition of your future life. Even when you experience life-changing negative events,remember that they consititute a very small percentage of your overall life.

You can generate more good events in your day and in your life by choosing actions that build rather than destroy. As you begin to plant goodness, it will boomerang back to you. As you cause good things to happen to others, the rewards will come back to you. This is part of the Universal Law of Attraction.

A labeling exercise

Here is an exercise that will help you to look at things in a more positive light.

List everything that happens to you in a day.

Assign a value to each event 1 being the worst thing in the world 3 being just an event neither good nor bad and 5 being the best thing that could ever happen to a person.

How many events really deserved a 1 or 2? Are you intensifying their effects and creating a bad day unnecessarily?

How many 3s can you crank up to 4s or 5s? What are the ways to make good events even better?

Try this for a week. Try to get a higher score each day.

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15 responses »

  1. Aurora, HSP says:

    Reblogged this on AURORA MOREALIST ©2011 ~ Writer and commented:
    This may be of help to anyone struggling emotionally… even a single sentence of it, that’s why I’m sharing.

  2. Aurora, HSP says:

    This is helpful. I needed to read this tonight. Not sure I will do the exercises but I did re-blog to share with others who may get something from it as well. Thank you. See you again soon :)

  3. Wonderful post, Saundra!! This is exactly the way I look at and live my life!! I am almost always on the creative plane. Nice to see it in writing!!

  4. Very enlightening! Beautiful write-up indeed!

  5. martingysler says:

    Yes, to be optimistic is certainly the best way to be happy and have success in life, thank you for your reminder. I like the idea from your exercice, it’ll give us more awareness of the things in life and what we really live, great!

  6. Taquila says:

    This is good Saundra, I truly believe that many people do not get it, just like you said it’s not that this person is good or bad, everything is based off of the decision you choose to make for your life, but know that we all reap what we sow and whatever we send out into the universe will come back to us.

    Great post again
    Taquila

  7. Lots of wisdom here!

  8. andy1076 says:

    Well said, Thank you for following my blog :)

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