As a college teacher, I hear my share of excuses. They all start with, but you don’t understand…
- People from my neighborhood don’t…
- People of my race won’t…
- Women can’t…
- Poor people never…
- People my age shouldn’t…
I’m a very short (5’1”) African-American middle-aged woman. I have tons of excuses not to succeed, take your pick.
Discrimination does not have my permission to enter my life; therefore I have no use for the excuse. You may use any one of them to fail if you’d like. In the meantime, I’ll keep succeeding.
It takes just as much energy to think up an excuse as it does an answer. Why are you wasting yours on excuses?
If you want to succeed, lose the excuses and jump-start your dreams.
- Don’t except limitations
- Live on a higher plane
- Be inspired
Don’t accept limitations
Danny (not his real name) was born blind. He could see shadows, but not much else.
His mother, wanting to protect him, reminded him of the limitations caused by his blindness.
- You cannot play with the other children, because you’re blind and might get hurt.
- You will never get a job because you’re blind.
- You will never get married and have a family because you’re blind.
- You will never…
Eventually Danny had enough.
He enrolled in college and got an apartment AND a job. He moved to another city, away from his mom. She actually stopped speaking to him but eventually go past it.
He earned his degree in computer programming. I hired him as one of the instructors at the community college where I worked.
Danny fell in love with one of the employees at the rehabilitation center where we held some of our classes.
They married and lived happily ever after; the only caveat to this fairy tale was that his wife was physically unable to bear children.
Once Danny refused to accept limitations, he began to succeed. His life became exactly what his mother predicted it could not.
Live on a higher plane
The universe did not invent discrimination, man did.
Competitive thinking: When resources are scarce, one must find ways to distribute them while at the same time conserving the energy needed to sustain life. The easiest way to do both is to systematically categorize people and then grant or deny resources based on these categories. No energy will be wasted on getting to know people, evaluating them on their merits, developing their talents.
By denying resources to certain groups, competitive thinkers reserve more for themselves. If they can convince people that they are naturally inferior, then it is even easier to take from them.
Competitive thinking makes you socially lazy. You voluntarily forfeit resources that you otherwise are entitled to because you surrender to your assigned category. People like me aren’t supposed to have good things.
You surrender without so much as a fight and accept limitations that others put on you. You allow strangers to write your autobiography.
Move out of the competitive thinking trap and free yourself in the creative plane.
Claim the success that is rightfully yours.
Creative thinking: Makes you celebrate that which differentiates you from others. You never look at your differences as shortcomings, but as specialties.
One year I decided to plant a blue garden. I picked out flowers that would bloom from early spring to late fall. At first, it was quite pretty, but eventually, it became very boring. Every new bloom began to look like the old ones. The lack of variety made my garden dull.
I eventually replaced my blue garden with one that blooms in different colors. This is so much cheerier than before. One week it may be white and yellow, the next week, red and blue, the next week pink. Whatever the color, the garden is vibrant.
We are different for the same reason. How dull life would be if we were all the same. We live in a wise universe in spite of ourselves.
Essential Principle #1 – Universal laws treat everyone equally.
If anyone is succeeding, then you can, too. Some use your excuses as power to succeed.
Where man says you cannot, the universe says you can. Do not empower man, he is of lesser strength.
We are all born with differences but no one has shortcomings. Shortcomings are an invention of competitive man, not of creative man. Shortcomings are beneath us.
Where you lack in one aspect, you make up in another. The universe is designed that way.
Danny’s blindness caused his hearing to become very sharp. If you are missing a leg, your arms become stronger. You have been given all the tools that you need to succeed; all you have to do is use them.
What others call weaknesses are gifts of the universe, not excuses for failure. Do not make the mistake of misusing your gifts.
Start by banishing won’t, don’t, wouldn’t, can’t, never and shouldn’t from your vocabulary. Then blaze a trail to your dreams.
Go ahead, succeed – I dare ya.
- 7 Essential Principles You Must Learn (living4bliss.wordpress.com)
- Pearl of a Great Price (cellestealluvial.wordpress.com)
- Avoid the Popular Opinion Bandwagon (http://edrobinson.wordpress.com)
- Stop Sabotaging Your Own Success (http://whenihavetime.com)
- The Ant and the Contact Lens (http://zendictive.wordpress.com)
- Wellness Tip of the Day (http://goss-coaching.com)
- Moving Through Walls of Resistance and Fear (http://beyondthecall.wordpress.com)